Do you see any “Good Girl” behaviors that have been undermining you? Do you have a hard time calling yourself a…writer? Do you have a hard time with the notion of social media because the thought of admitting you have a dream scares you spit-less? Have you bothered to get a domain name, a website? Blog? Are you afraid to ask for what you want? Do you put everyone and everything ahead of your writing? Are you waiting for permission? Do you feel like you are a poseur or a fake? Do you struggle with perfectionism? Read more…
Women aren’t alone in these kinds of self-doubts, of course, but Kristen’s piece is a must-read especially for women, and especially for women like me whose high school years were filled with “You’re a nice girl! Stay just the way you are.”
Nice is different from kind. Nice implies compliance, never making waves, saying “yes” to every request, shying from anything that could bring judgment, subsuming our own priorities every single time (or not even knowing what those priorities are).
Kindness is deeper, more meaningful. It implies conscious decisions, emotional strength, taking responsibility for our choices, knowing that those choices will sometimes make others unhappy or uncomfortable, embracing empathy but not at the expense of our own well-being or personal growth, knowing that we can be good people even when others are disappointed.
Do you have a story or thoughts about the journey from nice, compliant girl to kind, strong woman?
Thirty days ago I joined five other bloggers in a September Blog Challenge. Each of us committed to publishing 20 to 30 blog posts (or a goal of our choosing) during the month. Now, over 120 posts later, we can celebrate our success.
Why join or host a blog challenge? For me, I enjoyed getting to know fellow bloggers and their interests. The variety of posts and writing styles gave me a lot of new ideas and inspiration. Blog challenges have a built-in support system and accountability that can keep us blogging when motivation lags. I hope that everyone gained new readers, renewed momentum, and a sense of accomplishment.
This is the last of a three-part series for blog post ideas, with examples from blogs I enjoy. Click here for ideas 1-10 and here for ideas 11-20.
This is also my 19th and penultimate post in the #30PostsHathSept blog challenge (in which I and several other bloggers committed to writing 20-30 posts—or another goal of our choosing—in the month of September). Tomorrow will be Blog Challenge Celebration Day!
21. Crowdsource: Host a blog carnival.
This idea takes a bit of forethought and planning, but it is an excellent way to connect with other bloggers and add variety to your own blog.
A blog article that contains links to other articles covering a specific topic. Most blog carnivals are hosted by a rotating list of frequent contributors to the carnival, and serve to both generate new posts by contributors and highlight new bloggers posting matter in that subject area. ~ Wikipedia
Put out a call to other bloggers to submit their own post links on a specific topic, then list the best (or all of them) in a resource post, or plan a more regular carnival in which you rotate hosting with two or three other bloggers. The best example I know of is Joel Friedlander’s monthly “Carnival of the Indies,” in which he features posts on self-publishing.
22. Give us a sneak peek into your daily schedule.
Regular readers here will know that I am a big fan of Cal Newport’s Study Hacks Blog. This week he wrote about “Deep Habits: Three Recent Daily Plans,” in which he shows and explains three different hand-written daily schedules: “My goal in showing the above examples is to demonstrate the mundane reality of daily planning. It’s not a super secret system, and it can be messy (especially if your handwriting is as bad as mine), but it’s still absurdly effective at insuring that at the end of each week you look back and are proud of what you accomplished.”
23. Describe a recent dream (optional: and write a poem about it).
24. Ask your readers to help you make a tough decision.
Author K. M. Weiland, whose blog about writing is always down-to-earth and informative, recently asked her readers to help her choose the cover for her newest book. This idea works for almost anything: What five pantry-items are must-haves for quick meals? What is the best arrangement for living room furniture? What book should you read next?
25. Write about a moment or day or experience that brought unexpected happiness.
One of the joys of this blog challenge has been following my nephew’s study abroad blog, The Cross-Cultured Condition. His post “Simple Pleasures and a Grander Happiness” is a well-paced and inspiring reflection on how happiness often comes to us in ways and places unexpected: “So I was driving across the bridge over the Saint-Laurent River instead of taking the metro to see one of the greatest musicians of the times, thinking how ironic it was that I was thousands of miles from home and obligations to Tae Kwon Do was still keeping me from doing things. It’s seriously been the story of my life since I was nine.”
26. Blog about national/international ____ month/day/week.
27. Weave together prose, photos, videos and poetry.
In honor of Sunday’s super blood moon, Marianne Kuzujanakis (another #30PostsHathSept participant) wrote “Shadowed Moon,” which synthesizes information, original photography, entertaining video, and haiku. These kinds of posts are ones that readers will find and return to long after the event that inspired them is over.
30. Write about what you are thinking about right now.
Writer, professor, and friend Katherine Wikoff regularly blogs about photos from her daily life that catch her eye, such as her recent “Glorious September Sun and Clouds.” She muses on whether anyone else finds it interesting, and concludes, “this is my blog and these are the things I’m thinking about right now.” If you want to write a post but are stuck because you are thinking too much about whether anyone will want to read it, write the post for yourself, to make a record of your time this day on Earth. You need no other reason.
What are some of your favorite ideas for blog posts? Share them in the comments!
Yesterday I spent a glorious early fall day in the company of writers, writing teachers, editors, and agents at Mount Mary University’s Publishing Institute, a day devoted to getting our writing published (and all the steps along the way). Below are 8 takeaways I brought home with me.
1. Writers (and people in general) can still be attentive and focused.
After arriving early and taking advantage of the breakfast offerings, I found a good people-watching seat in the large room where the keynote address would be held. Before long, I noticed something that, while unremarkable only a few years ago, is unusual in our world today. Hardly anyone was bent over a phone or tablet.
Several attendees were leafing through the conference information packets. Others, like me, were looking around the room. Some sat in pairs, eyes focused on each other, either catching up or getting to know each other. A few (probably parents of small children) basked in rare moments of solitude, eyes unfocused, slowly sipping coffee.
In the sessions I attended and at our lunch table, I saw no one checking email or even taking notes electronically. (I’m sure some people did use electronics, but it wasn’t obvious or prevalent.)
The fact that the experience felt unusual—in a delightful way—shows how much face-to-face interactions have changed in the past decade. It also hints at the positive aspect of peer pressure. Anyone hunched over a device would have seemed out-of-place (not that I was every tempted—ha).
The afternoon session I attended by Kim Suhr, author and director of Red Oak Writing, was titled “Stoking the Fire: Getting and Staying Inspired.” She began by asking us to think about a current writing project and to imagine that it is completed. We have met our biggest goal. It is successful exactly in the way we want it to be. What does it look like? How do we feel? We did some free writing on this, then shared our thoughts with a partner.
My partner and I were hesitant to go as far as we could have with the exercise (vulnerability is scary, after all), but even the small steps we took were empowering. Which brings me to the next point…
3. Your voice and stories matter.
This and the next few takeaways come from the morning keynote talk by author Dean Bakopoulos. He began by talking about the importance of teaching children—all children—that their voices matter. Their stories matter.
We may find it easier to give this message to young people than to apply it to ourselves. Our voices do matter. Our words. Our stories. Regardless of how many readers or followers or fans we have, our backgrounds or education. When we embrace that belief, so much else falls into place.
4. Read other voices and stories to enrich your own.
Being part of a writing community means that, ideally, we read as much as we write. Bakopoulos focused on other writers in his talk (a refreshing change from speakers who use only their own examples), especially Z Z Packer’s short story “Brownies” and Lorrie Moore’s “Dance in America.” I look forward to reading more of their works. You can read online Z Z Packer’s “Drinking Coffee Elsewhere” and Moore’s “Referential,” both of which were published in The New Yorker.
He also referenced one of my favorite short stories, James Joyce’s “Araby.”
5. Think “momentum” rather than “pyramid” for plot.
“Momentum is the key to getting published.” ~ Dean BakopoulosTweet This
Many of us are familiar with the standard rising and falling action of the pyramid writing structure:
The problem, according to Dean Bakopoulos, is that good stories (both fiction and non-fiction) don’t always follow this pattern. Instead, he suggests thinking of plot as an escalator.
At the beginning of your story (again, whether fiction or non-fiction), your protagonist steps onto an escalator. The movement has started, the character knows something previously unknown, and there is no going back. The rising action continues, but the protagonist does not know what is at the other end. At some point, the action changes “from passivity to activity” as the protagonist pushes back what is in the way to go forward with greater urgency, arriving at the top with in a “new place” and a “new vantage point.”
Bakopoulos’s explanation was of course much more detailed, but that’s the main idea.
6. Find inspiration in children’s books.
An example Dean Bakopoulos used to illustrate the idea of momentum and escalator plot structure is Eric Carle’s The Very Hungry Caterpillar. Listen to Carle read his classic picture book, and notice how the action begins, how there seems to be no going back, and how the end offers a new place, a new vantage point:
Indulge in some of your favorite children’s books with a writer’s eye and pay attention to the plot structure. How can you use the same techniques in your own writing?
7. Writers span generations.
This year’s Writing Institute participants included the young (at least one seventh-grader), young adults, middle-aged writers, seniors, and everything in between. When we talk about words and writing, age differences disappear. It’s as though we all are in the same class on the first day of school.
Writing, like so many other creative arts, rewards age and experience. While there are examples of outstanding novels and other works by young writers, it is hard to think of a writing prodigy as Mozart was a musical prodigy. Writing is a domain that is not only open to all ages, but that rewards wisdom gained from a rich life. It truly is never too late to begin.
8. Writers need to say “no.”
Finally, Kim Suhr reminded us that it is not only okay but often necessary to say “no” to volunteer and other requests that we don’t want to do and that make it harder to meet our writing goals. If you have set aside Saturday mornings for writing, keep that time as sacred as if it were a salaried job. After all, as Kim said, saying “I can’t; I’m working” is perfectly acceptable. Writing is your work. Period.
Practice saying, “I am not available Saturday mornings” or “Any time but Saturday morning would be great” or “All of my Saturday morning are already taken.” Do not feel guilty (you will, anyway, but do your best).
If you wait for others to give you permission to value your writing and creative life, the wait may be too long and the price too high.
This morning I am leaving soon to attend Mount Mary University’s Publishing Institute, where I very much look forward to seeing old friends and meeting new ones. I’ll be sure to write about the event tomorrow. In the meantime, here is an update in our quest to baffle squirrels away from a new bird feeder.
It took only three days for the squirrels to figure out how to get above the baffle (we haven’t seen them do it yet, but I have my theories). Next step: buy a taller shepherd hook. To be continued…