If I Bring You RosesAuthor Marisel Vera recently wrote a powerful blog post about the doubts that are an inherent part of being a writer human:

“In that closet, surrounded by clothes, I had to face it—the simple truth— that I might never have a published novel. It humbled me to realize that it might be out of my power to achieve my dream regardless of how hard I tried and how much I worked. It just might not happen. I had given it my best and I could be proud of that. I thought of where I came from: the Chicago ghetto where being afraid was part of life and how my parents instilled in their children the determination to do better and get out. Did I have the right to give up when they didn’t?” Read More

Regardless of whether or how often we are published, we can use the very act and vocation of writing to learn to distinguish the inner voice that is our true voice from the cacophony of doubts and advice and fears. It’s a lifelong task that everyone faces, but the unavoidable, documented rejection that is a part of being a writer gives us a very special opportunity.

I’m not talking about waving a huge, foam #1 finger in the air or chanting mantras of success. What I have in mind is a more important underlying sense of confidence that supports and sustains us each day, whatever the mail or inbox may bring or someone says to us, a sense that we are doing exactly what we want to do with a  simultaneous “determination to do better” that is uplifting rather than depressing. This need is not unique to writers, but we can use our writing to gain this confidence and allow it to spill over to the rest of our life.

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt